long overdue update
where
do i begin? it’s been a while. i’ve been silent (silenced) too long i
think. time to ease my way back into this thing. i’ve generally been feeling
uninspired over the last few months, very few people were reading what i was
writing anyway, so it felt like it wasn’t exactly a huge loss to the blogging
community to go on hiatus.
that being said, i’m back – without much rhyme or reason really.
first things first: to those of you who don’t
know already, i’m going to be a dad come january! talk about major life change!
alli’s growing bigger by the day and so far the baby looks to be healthy and
happy. everyone keeps asking us if we know what we’re getting – i’m holding out for human and
caucasian. it’s not that i have anything against fros, you understand, it’s
just that if my kid has one, alli and i’ll be in for a long chat!
we decided not to ask what sex the baby’s going to be. alli would really like to know most days, but then she’s the kind of girl who wouldn’t wait till Christmas day to open her presents – there’s just no reasoning with some kinds of madness!
apart from the whole romance of actually finding out on the day whether i’m going to be a daddy or a mummy, the main reason we’re not asking is because there’s an overly large margin of error in the prediction. our health worker has regaled us with nightmarish tales of times they have gotten it wrong. one couple had three ultrasounds, the last of which occurred in the 35th week of the pregnancy, and each time it was confirmed that they were having a little girl. the woman had to have an emergency c-section and when she awoke from the general anesthetic there was a baby boy in her arms! it took her many months to bond with the child as she was convinced that this was not her baby.
boys and girls each have strengths and weaknesses, joys and turmoils associated with them. at the moment we don’t care at all which one we have, but if they were to tell us we were having a boy, we couldn’t help but get ourselves orientated in that direction and get all excited about having a son, then, were we actually to have a daughter, i can’t help but feel that we’d feel slightly disappointed.
better to remain excited either way at the moment and find out in less than 3 months!
i’ll be writing much more about this no doubt as it is quite a major event – understatement!
but there’s lots of other things going on too. at long , long last i have a job! like a real one; with a pay cheque and everything – not a very big one, it must be said, but a pay cheque nonetheless! i’m working for the john howard society in a residential home for young people dealing with complex mental health issues. at the moment, 90% of my work is really boring and feels a lot like baby-sitting. 10% of the time, it’s pretty frenetic, trying to de-escalate potentially volatile situations. i’m pretty much at the bottom of the food chain at the moment and really hope it won’t be long till i climb the ladder a bit. i’m not really in a position yet to influence policy decisions or to pose awkward questions to those in power, regarding new brunswick’s atrocious provision for those suffering from mental illness, its poverty, illiteracy, obesity… again, much more on this at a later date.
so, we have health care, a work permit and a social insurance number now. when added to our house, our friends and community here it makes quite a nice little package. you just wouldn’t believe the bureaucratic hoops we’ve had to jump through to get to this point, but here we are. next step is permanent residency. alli is working on the application as we speak. hopefully we’ll have that sorted in less than a year. that’s the point at which they can’t throw us out and we can do pretty much anything we like. after that it’ll be only a year until we can apply for full citizenship. the hard part is permanent residency as far as we can tell. the citizenship part is simply a paperwork exercise, involving quite a substantial amount of money.
but that’s all for the future.
for now, hey, we’re here for a while longer – pregnant and working.
that’s about it for this gentle reintroduction. sorry it’s information-heavy and fact-full. i really will try and give this whole blogging thing another shot and try to provide you with a bit more heart stuff (and maybe even one or two more things to make your head itchy!) next time.
thanks for hanging in there, the few of you who are left.

hey shane - nice to see you posting again.
even though i didn't comment often - i read everything! i guess that makees me a stalker of some description. but anyway - you both look great, i can't believe that your good wifey is going to drop in 3 or 4 months - she's tiny. you'll be able to carry your firstborn in one of her ickle bags.
congrats on the job and hope the residency thing rolls along nicely.
take care both of you - and keep posting dude.
yours in Him.
Posted by: gaz | Tuesday, 07 October 2008 at 04:34 PM
still here...still reading...sorry for not posting all that often
Posted by: andi | Thursday, 09 October 2008 at 12:50 PM
Hey, it's good to see you're still active! I almost gave up on checking this!
Congratulations on the baby to you both, Shane. That's pretty awesome. :)
Posted by: Joanna | Thursday, 09 October 2008 at 11:29 PM
I will admit that I stalk you both here and on facebook and am SO happy to see you posting again. I look forward to your challenging thoughts and opinions on life, faith, science, politics and everything in-between.
Posted by: Sarah D. | Friday, 10 October 2008 at 08:54 PM
Good to see you posting again. Congrats on the baby and the new job!
Hope to see more soon
Posted by: Brian | Sunday, 12 October 2008 at 12:09 PM
Dear Shane. In a recent 'what im doing now' you wrote
'still feeling very much like an outsider looking in when it comes to the whole organised christianity thing yet bored by most things 'emerging''.
I would like to both ask you a couple of questions on this and also comment on it. First of all when you say 'organised christianity' what do you mean? Is it the main Christian churches i.e Catholic, Church of England, Baptist, Methodist etc. If so then I understand your frustration as in all of them, there seems to be a lack of consistency with what the individual churches believe, teach and how they worship. Yet they still say that they are part of the one body that is the church. If the church is the 'pillar and ground of truth' then which truth is right? Even within one individual church there is no agreement on many fundamental truths of the faith, i.e the virgin birth. It is worth pointing out also that many of these churches teach that we inherit the sin of Adam and so as soon as we are born we are sinners even though we haven't committed any sin of our own yet. This is the teachings that St Augustine introduced and as a result the western church, i.e catholics and all the different protestant churches, have had to try to cover up and justify by making up different false doctrines like purgatory, limbo and predestination. As such their worship is affected as they cannot worship in the truth and they cannot walk in the fullness of the faith. This is what has led the western church in the division of the churches to a point that there are thousands of groups who all claim to be part of the church that Jesus is the cornerstone. Yet each group say that they base their church and their beliefs on the New Testament. It is also clear that they seem to each worship a different Jesus as for one he is vengeful and for another He is their mate and nothing more, for another He is the second person of the Trinity and so on. Jesus can't both Love and at the same time hate someone, just as we can’t at the same time both Love someone and also hate them. Jesus is Truth and Love.
Eastern Christianity, i.e. the Eastern Orthodox Church do not have this confusion. What they teach and believe about the Trinity, Father, Son and Holy Spirit One God, is the same everywhere. What they teach and believe about the Christian faith is the same everywhere. Throughout history they have believed, defended and died for the faith of the apostles. There has been times when people and Bishops have gone into error and lead some astray, but the Holy Spirit has guided the Church back to the truth. An example of this is the Seven Ecumenical Councils. The faith of the Orthodox Church is the same as it was in AD33 and has not changed. The only change is their understanding of that true faith, i.e, their Faith of the Trinity has not changed but our understanding of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, their essences and energies, God the Son being fully God and fully man, our understanding of this has developed, as it has been reveled by the Holy Spirit.
The worship of the Orthodox is not an expression of, nor does it come from the understanding of the theology of the Church, but from the worship of God and the experience of God in this worship comes their theology. In the hymns is the theology. In the sacramental life of the Church we meet with God in His energies. I should point out here that a sacrament or ‘Divine Mystery’ is when were God meets us. The Orthodox Church hold to the same seven sacraments that the catholic church have but don’t limit them at seven, as any time we meet with God it is a Mystery or sacrament.
If you ever go to an Orthodox Church service to be a spectator you will definitely be an outsider looking in. But if you go and embrace the worship and join the people in worshiping God, He will reform your heart.
I am posting this as a comment for this blog but if you want to move it somewhere else that is ok.
Also I would like to state that the opinions in the first paragraph are my own observations and are not the teachings of the Orthodox Church, as the Orthodox Church only teach on what is within the Church.
Servant of the Lord,
Paul Totten
Posted by: Paul Totten | Monday, 13 October 2008 at 05:30 PM
love you guys. can't wait for you to become parents x
Posted by: caroline | Tuesday, 14 October 2008 at 07:23 PM
good to see you posting again. ive missed you thoughts. been many days in the UK, where i'd be having converstions with the youth and think of you and alii in my room doing something similar. all the best fot the new arrival
xxx
Posted by: dee | Wednesday, 22 October 2008 at 08:53 AM
Hey shane, good to see you blogging again...
I do enjoy your posts
Dave
Posted by: Dave Luke | Tuesday, 28 October 2008 at 06:26 PM
I almost gave up on you, brother.
Congrats on the baby and the job.
Looking forward to fresh posts.
Shalom
Posted by: Nathanael | Monday, 17 November 2008 at 01:53 PM
Hi Shane and Alli
Fantastic news about the baby hope all goes well !!
We are now the proud parents of 4 Robbie was born in March and everybody loves him dearly.
Joel now in 2nd year at Belfast high, Zoe in P5 and Neve in P2.
Lovely to see you both looking so well.
Love Trish Paul Joel Zoe Neve and Robbie xox
Posted by: trish | Thursday, 20 November 2008 at 10:17 AM